Showing posts with label sex. Show all posts
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Saturday, August 13, 2011

Nollywood producer arrested for sexual abuse of actresses at audition


A Nollywood movie poster.

Nollywood producer arrested for sex abuse of actresses at audition

A popular Nollywood producer (names withheld) and a prominent member of the Association of Movie Producers (AMP) has been arrested after he was caught pants dawn stripping young actresses naked at his audition for a new movie last week in Surulere, Lagos.

Many registered members of the Actors Guild of Nigeria (AGN) and non guild members came for the audition at a residence opposite the popular Nollywood rendezvous Winnis Hotel. The producer of Locomotive productions said only actresses were needed. But other male actors decided to hang around whilst the audition was going on before the owner of the venue raised an alarm that the actresses were being sexually abused in one of the rooms. She said she saw one of the young actresses totally stripped and two others were giving blow-job to two members of the casting crew. The male actors rushed into the house and caught the popular producer and two other men engaged in oral sex with two actresses! They blew the whistle and the authorities soon arrived and arrested the producer and his accomplices.
Were they auditioning for a porn home video?


Cossy Orjiakor, a Nollywood sex symbol has once complained of sexual harassment.

Sexual harassment of desperate young actresses is common in Nollywood, but many popular actors and producers have denied allegations of sexual abuse.

A popular Nollywood actress Alaba Olatunde was once quoted in an interview with Bayo Adeboye that more than 90 percent of Nollywood actresses have slept with producers or marketers.

“Yes, I was sexually harassed several times; I was abused many times so much so that I even thought I was in the wrong profession. But I was determined not to quit, “ Alaba said in the interview posted on the Modern Ghana online news magazine from a Nollywood Exclusive published by NigeriaFilms.com on Sun, 12 Dec 2010.

“But frankly, more than 90 per cent of them would have slept with producers or marketers before getting to where they are today. Sexual harassment is very common in the industry and it takes only the grace of God for you to survive without it, “she added.

Pioneer Nollywood actor and producer Dozie Eboh confirmed the occurrences of sexual harassment in Nollywood in a recent Saturday Punch interview with Ademola Olonilua published on Saturday August 13, 2011.

“Yes, I have had the experience. We have those experiences. There was a time I did an auditioning and after, a girl came to my office to seduce me. You should be a man and know what you want. We do suffer sexual harassment. In fact, producers suffer sexual harassment from women than women suffer from producers,” said Dozie Eboh.

Pornography is a criminal offense in Nigeria and the National Film and Video Censors Board, the industry regulatory body checks the portrayal of violence, crimes, sex and pornography, vulgarity and other forms of obscenity in Nigerian and foreign movies before broadcast.








Wednesday, August 10, 2011

The Greatest Ambition Of Nigerian Women Should Not End In The Bedroom

The greatest ambition of Nigerian women ends in the bedroom while the greatest ambition of Nigerian men ends in the boardroom.

Majority of Nigerian women are more desperate to marry than Nigerian men.

In fact, majority of Igbo parents send their daughters to school to increase their material value more for marriage than careers.

The higher standards of education you have, the higher bride price and greater matrimonial status.

You are exposed to more men who are the potential suitors. Whereas the first and foremost priority of majority of Nigerian men is to be successful in their careers to increase their purchasing power to afford a good accommodation, a good car/SUV and a good wife or trophy girlfriend.

Many Nigerian men are still single, because they are yet to achieve this priority and there are not many choices of good women or trophy girlfriends to marry in Nigeria. Because, Nigerian men have been relegating majority of Nigerian women to the background and have ended up with more liabilities of millions of Nigerian girls and women who live at the mercy of men.

Nigerian women have their dreams and God has given everyone a unique purpose in life to fulfill your destiny. Therefore, do not let any Nigerian man make you give up your dreams to make a positive impact in your community and our society.

Any man who loves you will help you to succeed from the bedroom to the top of the boardroom.

Stephanie Okereke is a Nigerian actress who is fulfilling her noble dreams to make Nigeria better and greater.


We need more female CEOs than baby factories in Nigeria.
God made you to be more of a helpmate than bed mate.
Use your brains to excel and not your loins.

Amy Dubois Barnett is a leading African American woman fulfilling her American Dream as the Editor-in-Chief of the popular EBONY magazine.


A senior Nigerian banker was dating a very beautiful Nollywood actress from Akwa Ibom and said that he would prefer her to give up her acting career and goal to be a software engineer and be his wife with a supermarket. I advised her to dump him and she did. Then the other man told me that he would persuade her to stop acting to prevent her from being tempted and lured away by randy Nollywood actors and other big guys.

You see the inferiority complex behind the egos of these Nigerian men?

Nigerian men would prefer their women to end up eating from their hands to the women being independent.

Nigerian men feel better when they can show off their status symbols of posh cars or SUVs, luxury apartments and seven-digit salary positions to Nigerian girls and ladies, but get goose pimples and jittery when the Nigerian women are equally upwardly mobile top executives you cannot bluff.

Igbo men in particular feel reluctant to date big girls with big pay checks.

With majority of Nigerian men lording over Nigerian women, Nigeria will never advance in social, economic or technological civilization.

Dump any dumb Nigerian man who cannot stand your dreams and who does not want you to LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE NOW!

Narrow minded Nigerian men have been responsible for the underdevelopment of Nigerian women.

When my father retired, my great mother, Gladys Eke started working for the Lagos State Government to make sure that the family fared well and my father supported her. She was there with me on the high table when I launched my first book when I was 25 and encouraged me until the day she died. That is why I have called her the Mother of my genius. She was the one who taught me the art of story telling that has taken me places since age 13 when I won the first prize in the popular Pop magazine national essay competition on what we like best about Nigeria.
So, my success is the fulfillment of the dreams of my mother of blessed memory.

Nigerian women must never give up their noble dreams to achieve their intellectual and professional goals no matter what any man offers them to do so.

Look at the positive couple Stephanie Okereke and Linus Idahosa!
They are the best tag team in Nollywood and making great impact in the nation building of a New Nigeria.

Stephanie Okereke and Linus Idahosa!


If your man cannot stand by you to chase and fulfill your dreams, then he is not worthy of being your man. But your servant!


~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima, author of four books, Founder/Festival Director of the annual Eko International Film Festival (EKOIFF) in Lagos. His new books "Time after Time", "In the House of Dogs" and "Barack Obama and the American Dream" will be released before winter.
For more, see Michael Chima Ekenyerengozi | Changemakers
www.changemakers.com/users/michael-chima-ekenyerengozi













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Wednesday, July 6, 2011

No apologies my dear, You are an expendable idiot




My dear, I have no apologies for calling you an expendable idiot, because I will call a spade a spade.
And I will not flatter you.


She was faithful and was happy with me, but it was an ordeal tolerating her ignorance in conversation and her fake accent in her attempt to impress guys. She could not comprehend the raison d'être of my cause and work. All that mattered to her was having a good time. So, going out with her was really a waste of quality time, except you are one of them. After making love twice, I ended the relationship, because there was nothing she could offer me intellectually. She turned nasty when I ended it months ago. But weeks later she breezed into my office all made up to impress me.
She was swinging her long weave on like Willow Smith in her debut music video, "Whip My Hair", but this typical Nigerian hottie comes with a lower IQ than the 9-year-old daughter of Hollywood superstars Will Smith and Jada Pinket Smith. She is the typical Nigerian wannabe with all the airs and graces. My associate , a notable filmmaker and writer was with me and said he thought she was the character like Kenya Moore in my short romantic pulp fiction The Thing Around Your Waist.

She is just one of the hordes of an intellectually bankrupt generation who are contributing little or nothing to the collective intelligence of the black race, except engaging in their philistinism.

Of course, majority of them are liabilities we call flotsam and jetsam in the ocean of life.
They are all expendables in the black comedy of Nigeria.



Is it not pathetic that majority of Nigerian girls display and portray themselves as sex objects in order to get laid to get paid in cash or kind. They are spongers posing and posturing as girlfriends and “wives”., but heaven knows they are not better than prostitutes. Almost every one of them sponges on one man or another and their greatest ambition is to hook a rich guy to fool for life and desperately they will do whatever they can to achieve it. But ask them what have they done to make a positive impact in life?

No wonder millions of them are jobless and milling about on the street.
Many of them get jobs, but they still go moonlighting at clubs where pimps get them unscrupulous men for part time prostitution.

Of course, there are the special breed of brilliant, intelligent and smart Nigerian girls and women who are ambitious to pursue and fulfill the Nigerian Dream. But they are a minority, like gems in a rubbish dump. And when you discover or come across them, they are the best companions at home and at work. Like the one I call "Total Package", because she is black, beautiful and brilliant. And when she shares her dreams, you cannot help but give thanks to God and ask for more of such blessings in our life. With more like them, more Nigerian bachelors will no longer be looking far for brides of substance. But we have to separate the sheep from the goats.

My dear, is it not tragic that the best assets you can offer are just your mammary glands and vagina, without any intellectual property upstairs?
It is a waste of quality time dating you, and it is more beneficial reading a good book than forking you.



~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima

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Friday, June 10, 2011

Curb Violence Against Women, Girls While Preventing AIDS, Says UNFPA



9 Jun 2011 22:33 Africa/Lagos


Curb Violence Against Women, Girls While Preventing AIDS, Says UNFPA

PR Newswire

UNITED NATIONS, N.Y., June 9, 2011

UNITED NATIONS, N.Y., June 9, 2011 /PRNewswire-USNewswire/ -- Stronger action must be taken to change harmful gender norms and practices and to integrate the prevention of gender-based violence into anti-HIV efforts, said Dr. Babatunde Osotimehin, Executive Director of UNFPA, the United Nations Population Fund.

Addressing world leaders on behalf of the United Nations during the AIDS Summit today, Dr. Osotimehin underlined the need to sustain the current momentum on women, girls and HIV by increasing political support and funding, both at the global and the national levels.

"As the former head of the National AIDS Control Agency of Nigeria, the former Minister of Health, and, now, Executive Director of UNFPA," he said, "I can say with certainty that we will not be able to stop HIV and improve women's and girls' health until we empower women, advance gender equality and engage men and boys in this effort."

While the prevention of mother-to-child transmission of HIV is being integrated with sexual and reproductive health, Dr. Osotimehin noted that services did not "adequately address the needs and rights of women living with HIV in their full diversity and throughout their life-cycle." The limited access to female condoms, he noted, illustrates the need for more women-tailored HIV responses.

"I would like to stress that access to resources remains a critical challenge for scaling up gender-responsive HIV programming," concluded Dr. Osotimehin. "In fact, I think the biggest game changer that we need is increased commitment, political will and adequate resource investments to address gender inequality as part of the HIV response, translated into adequate resource investment."

In a related note, Dr. Osotimehin welcomed the strong political will demonstrated in Tuesday's United Nations Security Council resolution which underlines the need for more efforts to curb the epidemic in conflict and post-conflict situations.

"Addressing HIV and AIDS at the Security Council for the second time underscores the security implications of this issue and the urgency that Member States give to this global challenge," said Dr. Osotimehin. "We are hopeful that the new resolution will strengthen political resolve to provide HIV prevention programmes to uniformed services that are aligned with efforts to end sexual violence in conflict and post-conflict settings. UNFPA remains committed to this work and to promoting the right to sexual and reproductive health for all."

UNFPA, the United Nations Population Fund, is an international development agency that promotes the right of every woman, man and child to enjoy a life of health and equal opportunity. UNFPA supports countries in using population data for policies and programmes to reduce poverty and to ensure that every pregnancy is wanted, every birth is safe, every young person is free of HIV/AIDS, and every girl and woman is treated with dignity and respect.

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SOURCE UNFPA, the United Nations Population Fund

CONTACT: Abubakar Dungus, +1-212-297-5031, dungus@unfpa.org; or Omar Gharzeddine, +1-212-297-5028, gharzeddine@unfpa.org

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Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Book of the Month: ABC of True Love



Our Book of the Month is ABC of True Love by Christian Onyebuchi Nwankpa (Author)



Editorial Reviews

ABC of true love unveils the realization of the desire of every man and woman to love and to be loved. We all dream of a world without hate, a world without abuse. It all starts from the moment a man and a woman commits themselves to unite in mind and purpose. Is it possible to have a perfect, blissful and happy relationship that can stand the test of time? There is no other better way to achieve a fruitful and far reaching relationship than to see and approach it from the Creator’s blueprint. The author of this book has laid down principles and blueprints that uncover the mystery behind True Love and simple things that can be applied to give every relationship the needed spice. Do you want to unravel the secret of true love? check out the 10 Laws of love in this book. Do you want to spice up your dead relationship? check out the mystery behind this as you read along.

About the Author
Christian Nwankpa is the President/Executive Producer of Gu International pictures, a leading media production company. He is a prolific writer, a motivational speaker, relationship counsellor, business executive, a youth leader, a professional Banker, Born in Lagos, Nigeria. He earned a degree in mathematics from the University of Ilorin and a master degree in Business Administration from University of Lagos.



Friday, March 11, 2011

Warning: Strange Happenings in Nigeria



Two Nigerian Yoruba politicians caught naked in Juju ritual.
"The oath, which was taken naked by the members and in daylight, was witnessed by the sponsors and the native doctors, the administrators of the oath. Items used for the oath included blood, cow heads, calabash and other fetish materials. Each participant swore to upholding opposition to Daniel at all times and submitted to the death of their first born, should they renege on the oath." -Compass News
From Nigeria Masterweb.



A primitive native of Abuja with his little “daughter” sitting on a tamed Hyena.
From What Possessed Me.



A naked man pulling a young woman along to only God knows where on the street in a town in Nigeria. Is he going to rape her in public?
From Nigerians Report.



A man caught having sex with a she goat.



Saturday, February 5, 2011

Nigerian women have better taste than Nigerian men in romance


Photo Credit: The Serene Bride


Nigerian women have better taste than Nigerian men in romance

If you take time to examine the relationships of Nigerian women and men, you will find out that the women are more intelligent and sophisticated in their choices than the men.

Nigerian husbands are the most likely to be caught sleeping with their housemaids to catching Nigerian wives sleeping with their houseboys or servants. Meaning Nigerian men can sleep with any girl or woman, but Nigerian women cannot sleep with just any boy or man.

A Nigerian male executive with all the "Big Boy" status and swagger can rush to pull down his pants to have sex with the impressionable "Agege Bread" seller or Orange hawker even if she is dirty. But the Nigerian "Big Girl" will not even be caught flirting with any boy or man beneath her status or the class of her peers.

I have seen Nigerian "Big Boys" chasing what we call “bush meat” or half educated girls and women they can intimidate for cheap sex.
They resort to these cheaper options when the "Big Girls" bluff or rebuff them. So, they look for the poor secondary school leaver or undergraduate they can easily get with their cheap gifts and treats.

If the Big "Nokia" or "Blackberry" babies are playing hard to get, they might as well go for the poor babes who have little or no choice.

Like in Lagos city in Nigeria, the poor pretty ones from the ghettos of Mushin, Ajegunle and Shomolu are cheaper and easier for the "Big Boys" than dating the rich pretty babies in the upscale middle class Surulere, Ikeja, Anthony and upper class Ikoyi, Victoria Island and Lekki.

You can pose for the poor ghetto babies they can impress and brag about travelling to America or the UK, but not to the rich babies who spend their holidays and go for shopping trips in America, the UK, Spain, Italy and other fashionable destinations.

Nigerian "Big Girls" are more informed on the latest trends in vogue and have acquired more highbrow sophistication than the Nigerian "Big Boys" who in most cases are upstarts anyway. You see "Big Boys" who cannot even speak good English. So, they would prefer "toasting" the less educated poor girls to bending backwards to impress the more cultured "Big Girls".



~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima



Friday, February 4, 2011

Nigerian Girls Who Do Juju


Majority of Nigerian prostitutes on and off campus do juju.


Nigerian Girls Who Do Juju


I have met and befriended about three of them and they were all well educated and from comfortable families. Those who were close to them would never believe that such beautiful ladies were members of cults they joined when they were students at different universities in Nigeria. One of them even made sacrifices at the lagoon of the UNILAG. The second used special candles for rituals and the third one confessed that a python once came out of her vagina and said she was no longer in the cult. But her close female friend told me that she lied, because she was still keeping her white ritual plates. I made sure I never slept with anyone of them. I always had my Holy Bible whenever I passed the night with one of them. My friend dated another one who soon showed him her true colours one fateful day as they slept after making love. She suddenly got up and started singing and dancing in a strange ritual.

Majority of Nigerian prostitutes on and off campus do juju.

These are not rare cases, because many girls and ladies in Nigeria are ritualizes and pretending to be "Christians". They practice juju which they use in their relationships with men.



Thursday, September 23, 2010

Nigerian Dunces and Nuances on Facebook and Nairaland


Photo Credit: STUDENT MBJ

Most of the topics on the Romance Board of Nairaland revolve around SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS and the posters think SEXUAL INTERCOURSE is the beginning and the end of every relationship.

I have also noticed that the absence of psychotherapists in Nigeria is really not helping matters as many of our girls and boys who should have been seeing psychotherapists or go to a rehab come to the Romance Board to pour out their agonies and ironies of their relationships.

I can relate the mass failures in Nigerian secondary school exams to the characteristics of their personalities on the Romance Board. Because, they carry over these insecurities into the higher institutions and on the street.
They really need help.

I really feel sorry for our girls and boys who foolishly ape those in the US and Europe, but forget that those in the developed nations live in a different environment and they do not have mass failures or underdeveloped tertiary schools. The latest rankings of the 400 world's best universities is worth seeing to show you that we cannot ape the ways of life of those in the US and Europe in relationships. Most of these dummies paste useless photographs and trivia on Facebook and at the end of the day, they fail woefully in the classroom.

They can gyrate to the popular pornographic and psychedelic music videos and practice what they see on TV, but most of them cannot add much value to Nigeria, except increasing the cases of HIV/AIDS, like in River state where there are over 400, 000 cases of HIV/AIDS from the sexual activities of our promiscuous girls and boys who think with their loins and not with their brains. They forget that they are humans and not dogs.

Those in the US and Europe are well fed, well educated and their social structures work whereas our own have collapsed.

When a girl gets pregnant in Nigeria, she has no SAFETY NET for such an emergency.
When a girl is raped, she prefers to hide it than report it. No counselor and no therapist to address her predicament and she goes on like a wounded creature with unresolved issues in her heart and soul and if she is not healed she would degenerate to a worse state.
POSING AND POSTURING does not help them from the facts of life in a precarious state like Nigeria.

I have been using different literary devices to make them think and jolt them to face the stark realities of life in Nigeria, but many of them remain very ignorant, impetuous and vacuous.

The sooner our girls and boys start thinking with their brains and not with their loins, the better, healthier and safer they would be for our common good.

~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima



Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Corruption and Sexploitation Spread HIV/AIDS in Nigeria

Many Nigerian girls are commercial sex workers


There are over two million people living with HIV/AIDS in Nigeria and the country ranks second to South Africa in the world for the spread of the pandemic.


The promiscuous life of majority of Nigerian girls is responsible for the spread of HIV. The disregard for family values and virtues is no longer news as parents have failed to lead their children by example. Sexploitation is common on the street, radio and TV as parents and guardians either watch helplessly as their impressionable sons and daughters engage and indulge in immoral acts at parties where psychedelic music promoting sexual abuse is played and pornographic music videos are given regular airtime on TV. 90% of the most rotated programmes on Nigerian TV are musical shows with uncensored music videos showing half naked girls dancing wildly for young men dressed in suits or fashionable apparels ranting or lip-synching about their lust for sex. You wonder why girls would love to dance half naked for fully dressed men. Over 90% of the ditties and music videos of the so called Nigerian hip-hop artistes display impressionable school girls or call girls who portray themselves as sex objects without inhibitions and scruples and these immoral acts of carnality are seen as normal by the younger ones. They spend more time imitating these wayward role models and no wonder over 98% of them flunk their exams and the graduates among them are unemployable, because of poor academic performance.


Where are their parents?
Their parents have given up, and preferred to compete for status symbols and social class trophies of the Joneses of the primitive upper class in Nigeria. In fact, mothers have been known to act as pimps for their daughters. Majority of the poor parents even encourage their daughters to use sex to make ends meet for their families. One woman encouraged her most beautiful daughter who sponges on randy men to sleep with a rich married man for cash.


What is the government doing about the crisis?
The Nigerian government is corrupt and in fact caused the breakdown of law and order in the society as public officials misappropriated public funds with their accomplices in the private sector and have been using their ill-gotten wealth to seduce, oppress and suppress the poor masses who are their regular suppliers of servants and low income workers and their daughters are the cheap sex partners of the corrupt rulers who patronize the clubs in the red light districts of Lagos, Abuja, Port Harcourt, Warri, Uyo, Calabar, Owerri, Asaba, Onitsha and other hotbeds of prostitution. They are also the ones promoting campus prostitution or using their pretty and sexy female bank workers for marketing to seduce and sleep with rich men to lure them to patronize their banks.


Immorality is the root of the rot in the country. Most of the corrupt people are shameless and unrepentant. So, the solution is the eradication of corruption at all levels. Behavior change is going to be difficult, but the family and the government must address the dangers of pornographic entertainment online and offline, by the strict regulation of censorship. X-rated movies, music and other X-rated publications must be checked and controlled in private and public places. Moral education must be taught and good and noble family values and virtues must be the order of life.


Checking immorality and corruption is the solution for the control and prevention of the spread of HIV/AIDS in Nigeria and save our youths from wasting their lives. This is the only way we can secure the future of Nigeria.



















Counselling skills training in adolescent sexuality and reproductive health


A facilitator's guide, updated version


Authors: World Health Organization
Number of pages: 179
Publication date: 2001
Languages: English, French, Russian, Spanish
WHO reference number: WHO/ADH/93.3


English [pdf 642Kb]

French [pdf 3.3Mb]

Russian [pdf 1.35Mb]

Spanish [pdf 3.9Mb]

OVERVIEW


A guide to organizing and facilitating a five-day workshop with the purpose of strengthening the knowledge and skills of adults who counsel adolescents. Participants become familiar with the topics of adolescent sexuality and reproductive health. Emphasis is placed on interpersonal communication and listening skills.

The principles of non-directive counselling are introduced. This approach aims to facilitate the young client’s overall development by strengthening self-understanding and enhancing their ability to deal personally with present problems and prevent future difficulties.

The original document published in 1993 was updated in the European region in 2000 and incorporates issues related to HIV.









Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Beyond Setting Up The Ambrose Alli University’s Sex Probe, Institute A Crisis Drop-In-Center Now

Every faculty, student and family share a common priority in an educational center like the Ambrose Alli University, and that priority is leaning.

The Ambrose Alli University will not be the first institution of higher learning in the world to be faced with incidents of corrupt sexual behaviors between unprincipled students and dodgy lecturers or professors.

What is likely to be the first across the globe, is that on July 23rd, 2010, there was dramatic moments of a student, one Judith Okosun, in a chaotic encounter in the latter’s tiny room.

The videotape was flashed everywhere by the Sahara reporters, an internet newspaper.

There is a human side to this tragedy, which is the possible shocking response that could occur in persons directly and indirectly involved in this all time and highly published live video.

At the time of his writing, one wonders what the said lecturer and student, their respective families, the administrators, faculty and the student body of the university could be going through emotionally and morally.

There is a feeling of dishonor, indecency and shame that could be robbing on those affected by this hurting incident.

In what manner could the lecturer be thinking at this time even if he is being viewed as dishonorable, what could be streaming through the mind of the student even if she is being described as vicious?

At on point in the video, in what seems to be expressions in the Ishan vernacular, an Edo State dialect of this writer, a female voice, possibly that of a female on-looker or Ms. Okosun could be heard admonishing the highly distressed and near-naked engineering university lecturer; “Oya gbe’, tell me yes mar, Oya gbe (meaning shame on you, tell me yes madam). At which time the visiting but physically shaking, distraught and fenced in lecturer, replied through a nervous laughter, “Yes Ma”.

In the moment to moment recording were traumatic mentions of his wife, and daughter by the streaming and noisy voices of on- looking students. The identified student, Ms. Okosun, could be noticed periodically showing fluctuating display of facial pain and anger, in between phone calls.

At the point of this ugliness, what about their families out there in their respective homes, what could they be thinking is this a real or a fake episode?

For the lecturer’s wife, adult children and other family members, this apparent devastating event could form into an emotional storm and an overbearing event.

There could be feelings of traumatic horror equally manifesting in the affected student’s family. Even the co-female residents of Ms. Okosun, as well as the male students operating the video could be heard periodically mounting off screams of frustration and fury.

And there is no doubt that the families of the video operators could be feeling a sense of traumatic worry over the whole explosion.

How does any one make the families and the faculty, the males faculty mostly, understand the institutional tragedies flowing from this experience.

In the live footage, is a middle aged husband, father and lecturer with a full and open display of his penis per the order of both the female and male students.

So clear, from the entire image is a display of alarm, shame and helplessness beaming across the nation, and globe into various homes, offices, markets, dormitories and other settings.

Under these situations, the need for clear and cool heads through some form of clinical help becomes paramount.

The Nigerian culture historically has little attraction to helpful outlet like professional counseling and therapy, and instead many Nigerians rely much more on religious, tribal and family support or remain indifferent to painful related experiences. Certainly these outlets are part of the African reality.

However, the current institutional traumatic grief stands out markedly, as it is first of its kind, therefore calls for a much more different understanding, assessment and emotional support.

The Psychology department of the University with the help of the two or three Clinical Psychology faculty should set up a Crisis Drop- in- Center in safe like settings. It should be open to any one related or involved with the university.

In matters like this one there are natural responses of all types which could include guilt, exhaustion, apprehension, bewilderment or catastrophe.

The overall set up for help should revolve around Institutional Tragedy Assistance. The lecturer in question should be encouraged to receive urgent individual counseling to deal with possible feelings of acute stress, hopelessness, insecurity, gloom and loss.

On a separate basis his wife and children could be scheduled for a critical or an immediate family therapy, and in future another line of therapy with possible inclusion of the dishonored father and husband should be offered.

The student in question, given her reported past frustrations and dealings with this lecturer, and her current feelings of mixed, disgusted emotions and all of her overwhelmed undertakings ,she could gain from a cooling out related crisis intervention.

Her own family could also gain from some sort of supportive counseling. The faculty, administrators and other university staff should be encouraged to come in for counseling focusing on ‘this could have being me’ session.

Also, other students like Ms. Okosun’s co-residents, the students’ video makers and other on-lookers to the graphic scene, could gain from a safe environment like the drop in center to vent their anger and worry over their aberrant acts, the videoing of the episode especially.

And for those whose assessment and intervention showed to be in need of further help, a psychiatrist could become involved for medication evaluation and possible psychotropic medication maintenance.

There is the need for the Vice-Chancellor Sam Uniamikogbo and his administration to realize that crisis intervention is of high importance as it could help the affected players and individuals, the lecturer and the student especially. Immediate therapeutic assistance could help them learn better coping skills, develop good problem solving behaviors, and avoid negative ways of coping such as engaging in self destructive acts like self injury, drug or substance abuse as well as help return the individual to their previous level of functioning.

The commission of inquiry and the probing panel of this incident by the State of Edo under the administration of Governor Adam Oshiomhole, and through an investigational team at the university are certainly required.

However along side the investigation should be the urgent set up of short term assistance like the recommended Crisis Drop- in- Center.

This whole matter appeared to have come upon the university silently and swiftly, and let’s hope that this extraordinary problem goes out in the same way.


~ By John Oshodi

John Egbeazien Oshodi, Ph.D, DABPS, FACFE is a practicing Forensic/Clinical Psychologist and the Interim Associate Dean of Behavioral Science, North Campus, Broward College, Coconut Creek, Florida. joshodi@broward.edu.



Friday, June 11, 2010

40 years old Akwa Ibom Man Impregnates his 12 year old Daughter

40 years old Akwa Ibom Man Impregnates his 12 year old Daughter

Philip Ben a 40 years old father from Itam in Akwa Ibom is facing criminal charges of child abuse and despoiling his 12 year old daughter in Yaba, Lagos, Nigeria.

The daughter alleged that her father drugged her and despoiled her. But the father claimed that his daughter lured him into the abominable act of incest.

"One day I came back from work and I met my daughter unclothed. As I was looking and admiring her, my manhood erected and I could not control myself anymore. I started caressing her, but she did not resist me, so we started the act,” Philip Ben shamelessly confessed to the Criminal Investigations Dept of the Panti - Yaba office of the Nigerian Police Force in Lagos state.

The daughter said her father had been sleeping with her since she was 10 and had sexual intercourse with her daily for two years and the last time was in March this year.

For the complete news report, see page 8 of the Daily Sun newspaper of Nigeria on Friday June 11, 2010.



Thursday, June 10, 2010

Is Tiger Woods a Sex Addict?




Now that Tiger Woods is out of sex rehab and the term sex addiction is being talked about at the kitchen table, it begs the question, is he really a sex addict and is sex addiction on the rise?



Friday, June 4, 2010

With Love from South Africa



Are you going to South Africa for the 2010 FIFA World Cup?

The South African hotties are waiting for you. But please, do not forget your raincoat in this rainy and wet season when we really need warm bodies in the cold days and nights.

You can order for my NO SEX, NO VEX T-Shirts and vests.




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Tuesday, May 25, 2010

When There Are Six Women Chasing One Man




When There Are Six Women Chasing One Man


Read the following extract from a recent report from the U.S.

Real life is more complicated, of course, but this simple model illustrates an important truth. In the marriage market, numbers matter. And among African-Americans, the disparity is much worse than in Mr. Harford’s imaginary example. Between the ages of 20 and 29, one black man in nine is behind bars. For black women of the same age, the figure is about one in 150. For obvious reasons, convicts are excluded from the dating pool. And many women also steer clear of ex-cons, which makes a big difference when one young black man in three can expect to be locked up at some point.

Removing so many men from the marriage market has profound consequences. As incarceration rates exploded between 1970 and 2007, the proportion of US-born black women aged 30-44 who were married plunged from 62% to 33%. Why this happened is complex and furiously debated. The era of mass imprisonment began as traditional mores were already crumbling, following the sexual revolution of the 1960s and the invention of the contraceptive pill. It also coincided with greater opportunities for women in the workplace. These factors must surely have had something to do with the decline of marriage.

But jail is a big part of the problem; argue Kerwin Kofi Charles, now at the University of Chicago, and Ming Ching Luoh of National Taiwan University. They divided America up into geographical and racial “marriage markets”, to take account of the fact that most people marry someone of the same race who lives relatively close to them. Then, after crunching the census numbers, they found that a one percentage point increase in the male incarceration rate was associated with a 2.4-point reduction in the proportion of women who ever marry. Could it be, however, that mass incarceration is a symptom of increasing social dysfunction, and that it was this social dysfunction that caused marriage to wither? Probably not. For similar crimes, America imposes much harsher penalties than other rich countries. Mr. Charles and Mr. Luoh controlled for crime rates, as a proxy for social dysfunction, and found that it made no difference to their results. They concluded that “higher male imprisonment has lowered the likelihood that women marry…and caused a shift in the gains from marriage away from women and towards men.”

http://www.economist.com/world/united-states/displaystory.cfm?story_id=15867956


In Nigeria, there over 50,000 men in prison and these men left behind girlfriends and wives who are now desperately seeking companionship from other men. So they join the pool of hundreds of thousands of other single women who are searching for men to date and marry.

Let us add the girlfriends and widows of the thousands of Nigerian Economic Community of West African States Monitoring Group (ECOMOG) soldiers killed during the civil wars in Liberia and Sierra Leone. Then include the thousands languishing in hellish police cells all over Nigeria. All these unfortunate victims of foreseen and unforeseen circumstances had sweethearts who must continue with their lives.

Then finally, how can millions of jobless single women date and marry millions of equally jobless single men in Nigeria?
Therefore, the millions of jobless single women are desperately chasing the gainfully employed single or married men to make ends meet.
So a gainfully employed single man is now facing 6 to 10 single women who have no other man available to date or marry.

There is scarcity of eligible bachelors and the cause has nothing to do with the SPIRIT OF LATE MARRIAGE or whatever many opportunistic pastors have been using to lure desperate single women to their churches and milk them dry of their hard earned money in the guise of sowing for the miracle of getting married.
Tell the pastors to go and set the bond men in jail free and then give jobs to the millions of jobless single men first and stop preaching lies to single women in Nigeria.

For every single woman who gets married, there is another woman with a broken heart caused by the same man you are calling husband.

There are more single women than single men in these interesting times of economic, social and political vicissitudes.
We cannot escape from the present realities in Nigeria and the U.S.

We do not have enough eligible single men for our single women.

Six single women may have to share one man or languish in loneliness.

SHARING IS CARING.


~ By Ekeneyerengozi Michael Chima