Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Saturday, August 13, 2011

Baggage: A Little More Action Figures

Baggage: A Little More Action Figures
This guy's favorite action figure is one of a thousand. Are his chances at landing a date one in a million?

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

The Greatest Ambition Of Nigerian Women Should Not End In The Bedroom

The greatest ambition of Nigerian women ends in the bedroom while the greatest ambition of Nigerian men ends in the boardroom.

Majority of Nigerian women are more desperate to marry than Nigerian men.

In fact, majority of Igbo parents send their daughters to school to increase their material value more for marriage than careers.

The higher standards of education you have, the higher bride price and greater matrimonial status.

You are exposed to more men who are the potential suitors. Whereas the first and foremost priority of majority of Nigerian men is to be successful in their careers to increase their purchasing power to afford a good accommodation, a good car/SUV and a good wife or trophy girlfriend.

Many Nigerian men are still single, because they are yet to achieve this priority and there are not many choices of good women or trophy girlfriends to marry in Nigeria. Because, Nigerian men have been relegating majority of Nigerian women to the background and have ended up with more liabilities of millions of Nigerian girls and women who live at the mercy of men.

Nigerian women have their dreams and God has given everyone a unique purpose in life to fulfill your destiny. Therefore, do not let any Nigerian man make you give up your dreams to make a positive impact in your community and our society.

Any man who loves you will help you to succeed from the bedroom to the top of the boardroom.

Stephanie Okereke is a Nigerian actress who is fulfilling her noble dreams to make Nigeria better and greater.

We need more female CEOs than baby factories in Nigeria.
God made you to be more of a helpmate than bed mate.
Use your brains to excel and not your loins.

Amy Dubois Barnett is a leading African American woman fulfilling her American Dream as the Editor-in-Chief of the popular EBONY magazine.

A senior Nigerian banker was dating a very beautiful Nollywood actress from Akwa Ibom and said that he would prefer her to give up her acting career and goal to be a software engineer and be his wife with a supermarket. I advised her to dump him and she did. Then the other man told me that he would persuade her to stop acting to prevent her from being tempted and lured away by randy Nollywood actors and other big guys.

You see the inferiority complex behind the egos of these Nigerian men?

Nigerian men would prefer their women to end up eating from their hands to the women being independent.

Nigerian men feel better when they can show off their status symbols of posh cars or SUVs, luxury apartments and seven-digit salary positions to Nigerian girls and ladies, but get goose pimples and jittery when the Nigerian women are equally upwardly mobile top executives you cannot bluff.

Igbo men in particular feel reluctant to date big girls with big pay checks.

With majority of Nigerian men lording over Nigerian women, Nigeria will never advance in social, economic or technological civilization.

Dump any dumb Nigerian man who cannot stand your dreams and who does not want you to LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE NOW!

Narrow minded Nigerian men have been responsible for the underdevelopment of Nigerian women.

When my father retired, my great mother, Gladys Eke started working for the Lagos State Government to make sure that the family fared well and my father supported her. She was there with me on the high table when I launched my first book when I was 25 and encouraged me until the day she died. That is why I have called her the Mother of my genius. She was the one who taught me the art of story telling that has taken me places since age 13 when I won the first prize in the popular Pop magazine national essay competition on what we like best about Nigeria.
So, my success is the fulfillment of the dreams of my mother of blessed memory.

Nigerian women must never give up their noble dreams to achieve their intellectual and professional goals no matter what any man offers them to do so.

Look at the positive couple Stephanie Okereke and Linus Idahosa!
They are the best tag team in Nollywood and making great impact in the nation building of a New Nigeria.

Stephanie Okereke and Linus Idahosa!

If your man cannot stand by you to chase and fulfill your dreams, then he is not worthy of being your man. But your servant!

~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima, author of four books, Founder/Festival Director of the annual Eko International Film Festival (EKOIFF) in Lagos. His new books "Time after Time", "In the House of Dogs" and "Barack Obama and the American Dream" will be released before winter.
For more, see Michael Chima Ekenyerengozi | Changemakers

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Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Book of the Month: ABC of True Love

Our Book of the Month is ABC of True Love by Christian Onyebuchi Nwankpa (Author)

Editorial Reviews

ABC of true love unveils the realization of the desire of every man and woman to love and to be loved. We all dream of a world without hate, a world without abuse. It all starts from the moment a man and a woman commits themselves to unite in mind and purpose. Is it possible to have a perfect, blissful and happy relationship that can stand the test of time? There is no other better way to achieve a fruitful and far reaching relationship than to see and approach it from the Creator’s blueprint. The author of this book has laid down principles and blueprints that uncover the mystery behind True Love and simple things that can be applied to give every relationship the needed spice. Do you want to unravel the secret of true love? check out the 10 Laws of love in this book. Do you want to spice up your dead relationship? check out the mystery behind this as you read along.

About the Author
Christian Nwankpa is the President/Executive Producer of Gu International pictures, a leading media production company. He is a prolific writer, a motivational speaker, relationship counsellor, business executive, a youth leader, a professional Banker, Born in Lagos, Nigeria. He earned a degree in mathematics from the University of Ilorin and a master degree in Business Administration from University of Lagos.

Saturday, April 23, 2011

Happy Easter! Jesus Christ is Alive!

When Peter and the other apostle went home, Mary Magdalene stayed outside the tomb crying. Suddenly she saw Jesus standing there, but she did not recognize Him at first. Jesus said to her, "Woman, why are you crying? Who are you looking for?" Mary thought He must be the gardener and said, "Sir, if you have taken Him away, tell me where, and I will take Him!" Jesus said, "Mary!" Then she recognized Him and exclaimed, "Master!"

Jesus said, "Don't hold on to me, because I have not yet returned to the Father. But go to my disciples and tell them, 'I am ascending to my Father and your Father, to my God and your God.'"

Then Mary Magdalene went and said to the disciples, "I have seen the Lord!", and she told them everything that had happened.

Easter - The Resurrection of Jesus
Matthew 28, Mark 16, Luke 24, John 20-21, Acts 1

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

An endangered species of Nigerian men

Pastor Paul Adefarasin

An endangered species of Nigerian men in romance are the few good men who are;

1. Very faithful and they practice conjugal fidelity.
2. Very committed to the fulfillment of their sweethearts. They are proud partners in progress in both the academic and professional goals of their beloved. They do not treat women as sex objects, but as mutual HELP MATES and PLAYMATES
3. Very ambitious from the bedroom to the boardroom, that is to say, they are very good faithful lovers and very good faithful leaders.
4. Very bold and brave in the protection of the leadership of the family, community and society.
They are bridge builders and nation builders.

Nigerian Men like Pastor Paul Adefarasin.

Monday, February 14, 2011

Happy Valentine's Day and an e-mail from Prof. Wole Soyinka

Orikinla is at work.
No time to even join a sweetheart at Ozone in Yaba, Lagos.
The new Igbo girl next office who said I behave more like a Yoruba man received what she asked for to make her happier. Making someone smile is enough for Valentine's Day. But I am ignoring another one who has been calling obviously to argue and quarrel over the fact that she cannot eat her cake and have it back.
I should really have time this weekend for anyone I would love to be with.

Lest I forget, today is our landlady's birthday and she sent a plate of Jollof rice with chicken, two bottles of Coca Cola and chocolate sweets.
Being born on St. Valentine's Day is something worth celebrating and I wish her Happy Valentine's Day and many more happy returns of today with longer life and more riches for the common good.
I just stepped out to give her my best wishes shaking her hand whole heartedly.
She still looks appealing in her 60s. Beautiful African mother of a black and beautiful daughter who is studying law in the UK.

The icing on the cake for me today is the e-mail from Prof. Wole Soyinka, the Nobel laureate on one of my new books.

One thing about life is you can never please everybody and my love is double-edged sword.

Saturday, February 5, 2011

Nigerian women have better taste than Nigerian men in romance

Photo Credit: The Serene Bride

Nigerian women have better taste than Nigerian men in romance

If you take time to examine the relationships of Nigerian women and men, you will find out that the women are more intelligent and sophisticated in their choices than the men.

Nigerian husbands are the most likely to be caught sleeping with their housemaids to catching Nigerian wives sleeping with their houseboys or servants. Meaning Nigerian men can sleep with any girl or woman, but Nigerian women cannot sleep with just any boy or man.

A Nigerian male executive with all the "Big Boy" status and swagger can rush to pull down his pants to have sex with the impressionable "Agege Bread" seller or Orange hawker even if she is dirty. But the Nigerian "Big Girl" will not even be caught flirting with any boy or man beneath her status or the class of her peers.

I have seen Nigerian "Big Boys" chasing what we call “bush meat” or half educated girls and women they can intimidate for cheap sex.
They resort to these cheaper options when the "Big Girls" bluff or rebuff them. So, they look for the poor secondary school leaver or undergraduate they can easily get with their cheap gifts and treats.

If the Big "Nokia" or "Blackberry" babies are playing hard to get, they might as well go for the poor babes who have little or no choice.

Like in Lagos city in Nigeria, the poor pretty ones from the ghettos of Mushin, Ajegunle and Shomolu are cheaper and easier for the "Big Boys" than dating the rich pretty babies in the upscale middle class Surulere, Ikeja, Anthony and upper class Ikoyi, Victoria Island and Lekki.

You can pose for the poor ghetto babies they can impress and brag about travelling to America or the UK, but not to the rich babies who spend their holidays and go for shopping trips in America, the UK, Spain, Italy and other fashionable destinations.

Nigerian "Big Girls" are more informed on the latest trends in vogue and have acquired more highbrow sophistication than the Nigerian "Big Boys" who in most cases are upstarts anyway. You see "Big Boys" who cannot even speak good English. So, they would prefer "toasting" the less educated poor girls to bending backwards to impress the more cultured "Big Girls".

~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima

Friday, February 4, 2011

Nigerian Girls Who Do Juju

Majority of Nigerian prostitutes on and off campus do juju.

Nigerian Girls Who Do Juju

I have met and befriended about three of them and they were all well educated and from comfortable families. Those who were close to them would never believe that such beautiful ladies were members of cults they joined when they were students at different universities in Nigeria. One of them even made sacrifices at the lagoon of the UNILAG. The second used special candles for rituals and the third one confessed that a python once came out of her vagina and said she was no longer in the cult. But her close female friend told me that she lied, because she was still keeping her white ritual plates. I made sure I never slept with anyone of them. I always had my Holy Bible whenever I passed the night with one of them. My friend dated another one who soon showed him her true colours one fateful day as they slept after making love. She suddenly got up and started singing and dancing in a strange ritual.

Majority of Nigerian prostitutes on and off campus do juju.

These are not rare cases, because many girls and ladies in Nigeria are ritualizes and pretending to be "Christians". They practice juju which they use in their relationships with men.

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Women Say Infertility Makes Them Feel Flawed While Men Say They Feel Inadequate

Photo Credit: Jujumama.

21 Jan 2010 13:37 Africa/Lagos

New Survey Finds Infertility Delivers a Serious Blow to Self-Esteem

Women Say Infertility Makes Them Feel Flawed While Men Say They Feel Inadequate

WHITEHOUSE STATION, N.J., Jan. 21 /PRNewswire-FirstCall/ -- Struggling to get pregnant can be a serious blow to the self-esteem of both women and men, according to a new national survey. Seven in 10 (71 percent) women said that infertility makes them feel flawed, while half of men (50 percent) say it makes them feel inadequate. Infertility also has a big impact on a couple's relationship, with half (53 percent) saying they find themselves trying to hide their feelings from their partner. The survey of 585 women and men was conducted in September 2009 by GfK Roper on behalf of Schering-Plough; Schering-Plough and Merck & Co., Inc. (NYSE:MRK) merged on Nov. 3, 2009.

"Couples undergoing fertility treatment clearly experience a rollercoaster of emotions," said Alice D. Domar, Ph.D., executive director, The Domar Center for Mind/Body Health, Boston IVF. "The desire to start a family is a strong one, and failing to achieve that can impact everything from the marital relationship to interactions with future grandparents and friends who become pregnant."
In a signal that the stress of infertility can lead to isolation, about 6 in 10 couples (61 percent) stated they try to hide their fertility troubles from family and friends. One-third (34 percent) say their ability to confide in others has decreased since they began trying to get pregnant. In fact, 54 percent of all couples agreed that it was easier just to tell people that they were not planning to have children, rather than admit to their struggle.

Disbelief a common issue

The majority of those surveyed never imagined that they would experience infertility. Two-thirds (65 percent) said that prior to trying to conceive, it never occurred to them that they may have trouble getting pregnant when they wanted to. More than half of couples (51 percent) agree that they may have waited too long to try to become pregnant. Of the survey respondents currently being treated by a fertility specialist or reproductive endocrinologist, 91 percent wish they had started doing so sooner.

While the survey found that both women and men understand the link between a woman's age and fertility, they often do not fully understand how soon a woman's fertility begins to decline significantly. According to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, a healthy 30-year-old woman has about a 20 percent chance per month of getting pregnant, but by age 40, her chance is only about 5 percent per month.(1)
"Although an estimated one in eight couples of childbearing age struggles with fertility problems, patients often say they never thought it would happen to them," said Zev Rosenwaks, M.D., director, Center for Reproductive Medicine, NY-Weill Cornell Medical Center. "Couples need information so they can understand their fertility risk factors, and they need to seek treatment from a specialist quickly if they suspect a problem."

Relationships with family, friends become strained

Infertility can also have a negative impact on a couple's relationships with family and friends. More than 6 in 10 couples (63 percent) say they get tired of people asking them how the process is going, or offering suggestions on how to conceive.
"Couples undergoing fertility treatment often turn inward and stop confiding in family and friends because of the pain involved in talking about their struggle to conceive," said Barbara Collura, executive director, RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association. "It's important for couples to know that extensive resources exist to support them throughout the process."

Many couples also expressed frustration about receiving unsolicited advice. Most often, couples who receive unsolicited advice are told to just relax and stop worrying so much (78 percent), followed by health advice like changing their diet (42 percent), getting more exercise (41 percent) and getting more sleep (38 percent).
"Deciding how much information to share with family and friends and when to share it is a challenge for couples dealing with infertility," said Ken Mosesian, executive director, the American Fertility Association. "Many couples respond by closing themselves off, so it is important for families and friends to be sensitive and listen instead of offering advice."

Intimacy and relationship affected by infertility

More couples agreed that their difficulty getting pregnant has brought them closer together (58 percent), as compared with those who say that it has hurt their relationship (36 percent). Women praise their partners for being supportive, with more than 8 in 10 (84 percent) saying that their partner either makes or attends medical appointments. For those women who have used injectible fertility treatments, 86 percent say that their partner has helped them with injections.
However, both sexes indicate that the stress and tension in their relationship has increased since they first started trying to get pregnant (42 percent of men, 36 percent of women). Men were also more likely than women to say the time spent arguing with their partner has increased (36 percent of men, 26 percent of women).
The struggle to conceive also takes a toll on intimacy. More than half of all couples (55 percent) report that infertility has made sex a physically and emotionally anxious time. In addition, 53 percent of couples say infertility has taken the fun and spontaneity out of their sex life, and more than 4 in 10 (43 percent) report feeling sexually unattractive.

Full survey results are available at

About the survey
A total of 585 people who are in a relationship and who were having difficulty trying to conceive over the past two years were interviewed from September 1-14, 2009. The 585 respondents were made up of 326 men and 259 women. Women interviewed were between the ages of 18 and 44. Men interviewed could be any age, so long as their partner was between the ages of 18 and 44. In all cases, either the woman or both partners had the fertility problem.
The survey was conducted by GfK Roper Public Affairs & Media, a division of GfK Custom Research North America, on behalf of Schering-Plough; Schering-Plough and Merck & Co., Inc. merged on Nov. 3, 2009. Respondents were from online panel sources in the United States.

The following steering committee provided guidance on survey development: Alice D. Domar, Ph.D., executive director, The Domar Center for Mind/Body Health, Boston IVF; Zev Rosenwaks, M.D., director, director, Center for Reproductive Medicine, NY-Weill Cornell Medical Center; Barbara Collura, executive director, RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association; and Ken Mosesian, executive director, the American Fertility Association.

About infertility
Infertility is a disease or condition that impairs the body's ability to perform the basic function of reproduction. It is often diagnosed after a couple has not conceived after one year of actively trying, while women over the age of 35 are encouraged to seek diagnosis and treatment for infertility after six months.(2) More than 7.3 million Americans, or one in eight couples of childbearing age, struggle with fertility problems.(3)

There are many causes of infertility including problems with the production of sperm or eggs, with the fallopian tubes or the uterus, endometriosis, frequent miscarriage, as well as hormonal and autoimmune (antibody) disorders in both men and women.(3) Approximately 40 percent of fertility problems are due to a female factor and 40 percent are due to a male factor. In the balance of the cases, fertility issues result from problems in both partners or the cause cannot be explained.(3)
There are a variety of treatments available for infertility; these include surgery, hormone treatments, insemination, and IVF, among others.(3)

About Merck
Today's Merck is working to help the world be well. Through our medicines, vaccines, biologic therapies, and consumer and animal products, we work with customers and operate in more than 140 countries to deliver innovative health solutions. We also demonstrate our commitment to increasing access to health care through far-reaching programs that donate and deliver our products to the people who need them. Merck. Be Well. For more information, visit

Forward Looking Statement
This news release includes "forward-looking statements" within the meaning of the safe harbor provisions of the United States Private Securities Litigation Reform Act of 1995. Such statements may include, but are not limited to, statements about the benefits of the merger between Merck and Schering-Plough, including future financial and operating results, the combined company's plans, objectives, expectations and intentions and other statements that are not historical facts. Such statements are based upon the current beliefs and expectations of Merck's management and are subject to significant risks and uncertainties. Actual results may differ from those set forth in the forward-looking statements.

The following factors, among others, could cause actual results to differ from those set forth in the forward-looking statements: the possibility that the expected synergies from the merger of Merck and Schering-Plough will not be realized, or will not be realized within the expected time period, due to, among other things, the impact of pharmaceutical industry regulation and pending legislation that could affect the pharmaceutical industry; the risk that the businesses will not be integrated successfully; disruption from the merger making it more difficult to maintain business and operational relationships; Merck's ability to accurately predict future market conditions; dependence on the effectiveness of Merck's patents and other protections for innovative products; the risk of new and changing regulation and health policies in the U.S. and internationally and the exposure to litigation and/or regulatory actions.

Merck undertakes no obligation to publicly update any forward-looking statement, whether as a result of new information, future events or otherwise. Additional factors that could cause results to differ materially from those described in the forward-looking statements can be found in Merck's 2008 Annual Report on Form 10-K, Schering-Plough's Quarterly Report on Form 10-Q for the quarterly period ended September 30, 2009, the proxy statement filed by Merck on June 25, 2009 and each company's other filings with the Securities and Exchange Commission (SEC) available at the SEC's Internet site:

(1) American Society for Reproductive Medicine, "Age and Fertility: A Guide for Patients." Accessed October 21, 2009.
(2) Frequently Asked Questions About Infertility. American Society for Reproductive Medicine Web site. Accessed September 1, 2009.
(3) Infertility Diagnosis. RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association Web site. Accessed September 1, 2009.
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Wednesday, August 5, 2009

Please, there is No Time to hate…Because I Love You

Please, there is No Time to hate…Because I Love You

Life is the romance of human existence on planet earth and the kind of romance you have can affect your existence positively or negatively.
I have noticed that most of the ills plaguing humans are caused by hatred and the causes of the hatred are the erroneous and ambiguous notions we have about life and the wrong notions have made majority of us to have bad ways of life or evil lifestyles.

I have heard and read of horrible and terrible things humans do to attack and harm themselves in their desperate competition for the lusts of the flesh.
A guy pours acid on the elder brother of a girl who refused to marry him. Why?
He alleged that the elder brother advised his sister to reject him.
A jealous girlfriend shot and killed her boyfriend whilst he was still sleeping and then shot and killed herself lying beside him in bed. Why? She suspected him of dating another woman.

I have seen men engaged in do or die competition over a woman in Lagos.
They did evil things to acquire and possess the cash, posh cars and palatial mansions to impress her.

A stinking rich Internet scammer told a poor young man to give up his fine girlfriend and even offered him lump sums of cash for her. The angry young man rejected the indecent proposal and swore to kill the big man if he snatched his girlfriend.

A guy actually stabbed one of my cousins with scissors and killed her for refusing to go out with him.

The list is endless and most of these horrible and terrible acts of hatred leave me depressed.

If someone does not want to go out with you, please move on and let the person be.
Love is not by force.
Hatred has bred monsters of destruction in Nigeria. Hatred caused by envy and jealousy as greedy Nigerians compete for the status symbols of the Joneses in the Nigerian society.
Hatred is the cause of the things presently wrong with life in Nigeria as poverty has left the majority in adversity and this is a great pity. The state of romance is not what you would have loved it to be as depression is common and many people are actually shadowed by the spirit of melancholy. But the love that would have rescued and saved many people is not being truly practiced as majority of Nigerians are caught in the matrix of the rat race. Avarice, caprice, malice, prejudice and injustice plague millions of Nigerians and have made the country worse as observed in the foreign media and it is as if Nigerians have lost all sense of human dignity and integrity.

If only we could obey the simple commandment of Love Your Neighbor as Yourself, but most of us are desperately competing with ourselves and ironically the most guilty are the so called Christians who should be the best example of what God commanded and Jesus Christ emphasized as the pillar of true Christianity which is Charity.
The last time I checked, what God said has not changed from Love Your Neighbor as Yourself and not compete with your neighbor as yourself.
What is killing most people in Nigeria are competitive opportunism, selfish individualism, antagonism and egoistic impressionism of the rat race, because Nigerians cheat, lie, steal and kill in their desperation for the selfish acquisition and avaricious possession of the so called status symbols of the society for their bragging rights.

Matriculation is a competition.
Admission is a competition.
Graduation is a competition.
Getting a plum job is a competition.
Getting a fancy girlfriend or trophy wife is a competition.
Building a mansion is a competition.
Becoming rich-quick is a completion.

I wonder why getting an education should be a competition?
Hello! Getting an education is not a competition.
If you need any sort of education for a profession, please have it and use it for your own benefit and the benefit of others and it is not an ego-trip or selfish yardstick to prove a point to your peers or anyone at all. Hello! Grow up!
Who do you think is your competition?
Stop boasting and fooling yourself.

A guy recently bought a new house and some of peers are hissing about how he made his millions of naira to buy the mansion.
Getting a lovely girlfriend also causes envy too.

You wonder why most Nigerians want dream jobs?
To love their neighbors as themselves?
No! To compete with the Joneses..

Wo! If I do this, dem go see me and bow!
Yo! If I get that babe, dem go dey trip.

These childish and foolish bragging are common among most people in Nigeria in different forms and dialects.

The manners and ways Nigerians go about competing among themselves are the causes of the horrible and terrible evils plaguing Nigeria and have left millions of Nigerians suffering and dying in misery. Many Nigerians have become devils in their desperation for the perishable fancies and trophies of the rat race.
Devils do evils and evils cause the ills of the society, because evil makes you ill.

Love. Love. Love.Stop hating and hurting today and start loving every day by day.